Random Thoughts: The JT Connection

A lifetime ago, I broke up with my first girlfriend. I thought she was "the one" (play heavenly music). I was pretty devastated and from that point on, I ended up in a series of rebounds (which led to additional disaster) that led me to swearing off relationships altogether. I ended up taking 4 years off during which I worked my ass off. Fun huh?

So the reason I'm writing about this all is because of all the tabloid crap that I've come across and the most recent talks about Justin Timberlake and Britney Spears. So turns out he wrote her a letter that according to insiders, "He poured his heart out. He told her he was sorry they fell in love so young, because if they'd fallen in love even just a few years later, he would've married her--and they'd probably have kids together by now."

So before I go any further, I'm over that relationship. I walked away from it and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. Here's why:

So my fiancé (yes she's "the ONE" (play heavenly music)) and I were talking about it and I mentioned that "he wasn't ready for her when they were dating." Seriously, what happened to him happened for a reason. Do you think his music would be as good as it is if he didn't go through that bullsh*t? Hell no, "Cry Me a River" would have been yet another boring love ballad and the same has to be said for "What Goes Around Comes Around." When they were dating, Timberlake didn't have game. He was solid then but having his heart broken was the catalyst that made him grow into what he is now. Seriously, when people go through personal hell, the strong turn inwards and build themselves up.

During my 4 years of solitude, I crossed a lot of things off my life list (went skydiving, learned to ride a motorcycle, etc...), I worked on my portfolio, my career, my personality (Although some might ask: "What improved?"), my body, my knowledge, everything. Most importantly, I learned to be alone and as a result... I grew.

Being alone forces us to look at ourselves without any distraction. It's probably the most honest time we will ever get to learn about and more importantly, love ourselves. Embrace the change, the solitude, and the perspective that comes from it. You'll thank yourself later.